When Self-Doubt Creeps In: Navigating Those Questioning Moments

Ever have one of those days where you question everything?

Wonder if any of it—every email sent, every meeting or zoom (or showing), every piece of advice given—actually makes a dent?

I've been there, more times than I care to admit.

On one particularly tough day, filled with doubt and the tempting thought to just throw in the towel, I received an email.

Not just any email, but a message from an incredibly sweet client.  Her and her husband bought and sold a home with me previously, and had such an impact on me. 

They wrote to tell me that their  sister in law wanted to take a serious look at moving to Fort Wayne from Michigan.  Her husband (my client's brother), had been diagnosed with brain cancer.  Being closer to them, and family would be a priority once he was called home.  

Seems like a pretty easy assignment, one that I take on every week, but with obvious heaviness the likes of which I had not experienced.  I’ll spare you the lengthy details, although I'd be happy to share all of the amazing things God did along the way with any of you.  

Long story short, we found the perfect place, with the perfect circumstance, at the perfect time… But along the way, as I showed the four of them houses, I got to see a man consumed with the desire to know his wife would be safe, and in a good place to make home.  Without him.  He was at total peace with what lay ahead, but  he needed to know she was where she needed to be. 

 I cherish that first meeting, and those anything but ordinary showings.  I cherish the laughs, and even the few tears.  Before we left what would be her home, while sitting in the living room because he was too weak to stand, he thanked me for taking time with them and for taking such good care of his family. This wasn’t just a “thank you, bud,” “ I really appreciate it” type of thing we say to be polite.  I could see something different in his eyes. We prayed,  I tried to hold it together, thanked him for his trust, and said what I knew would most likely be goodbye.  

This wasn't about numbers or success stories; it was a raw, real-life impact.

And suddenly, all those doubts?

They paled in comparison to the undeniable evidence that what we do matters.

Deeply.

Why am I sharing this with you?

Because I know you have those days too.

Days where you wonder if your work/contribution/voice matters.  

Let me be as clear as daylight: it does.

You have something unique and invaluable to offer, and somewhere out there is someone whose life could be profoundly changed by what you bring to the table.

Feeling doubt right now?

Let’s Talk. Hit "reply" and share your hesitations with me.

Because if there's one thing I've learned, it's that we overcome doubt not by ignoring it, but by facing it head-on, together. :) 

Here's to making an impact, one relationship at a time,

ALAN

P.S. If you're on the brink of giving up on a dream or a project because you're not sure it matters, let this be your sign. Keep going. The impact you're destined to make is just on the other side of those doubts. Promise. :)